I went through a divorce (not pleasant). I have 2 kids & I love them (most pleasant). There could be no friend closer to one than his/her spouse. In a relationship, there are items that the two parties need to match. There are items that the pair need to complement each others on. And of course, there are basics that are the foundation of a relationship. Basics are: Having the ability to be Honest, Real, Kind and Trusting, at least to each other. Matches are: Intelligence, goals, view points and communication level. Complements: Each others deficiencies, and strengths. I am a solver. I look for and tend to see the glass 1/2 full. And I try to find ways to fill it up more. So, I do make a good friend. The choice is ours at the beginning before commitments are made. The worst match in a relationship is for one to see the glass 1/2 full and the other 1/2 empty. Build your partners strengths, and weaknesses dissolve as the glass gets more full. That is the fundamental.